Taboo Topics: What Shouldn’t Be in Healthy Relationships?

Healthy relationships are very complex and multifaceted. Conflicts will inevitably arise in any somewhat long-term relationship. There should always be room for concessions, compromises, apologies, and a great deal of patience.

However, there are certain aspects where you simply need to say “no.” These are the moments we will discuss in today’s material.

Competitiveness

In the whirlwind of emotions, it’s easy to forget that a relationship between a man and a woman is not a race or a competition. No one says you shouldn’t strive for personal growth and improvement. But it’s better to channel your drive into other areas of life—career, hobbies, sports. Let the relationship develop as organically as possible.

Abuse

Unfortunately, there are people who cannot stand out on their own—they must demean others. Even more regrettable is when this happens in a relationship with a loved one. Ego can flare up in anyone, but if it happens on a regular basis, nothing good can be expected.

Still want to save the relationship in such a situation? Consider whether there is anything left to save.

Stinginess

Let’s set romance aside for a moment and take a look at the practical side of things. Any serious relationship requires time, money, and effort—both emotional and sometimes physical. If you find yourself repeatedly reluctant to invest any of these resources, it’s time to consider whether you’ve found the right person.

Coldness in Bed

Harmonious relationships are unthinkable without sex, no matter how you spin it. Of course, there are examples of long-term relationships built solely on platonic principles. However, it’s hard to call them objectively successful by classic standards. Persistent questions from relatives like “Where are my grandchildren?” are just the tip of the iceberg. Sexual dissatisfaction of one partner leads to frustration, which tends to accumulate until it overflows. It’s difficult to predict how this will manifest in real life. A scandal? A divorce? Or something worse?

Ignoring

Ignoring a problem will only lead to one thing—the problem will grow and its symptoms will worsen. Every sensitive topic in a conversation that boils down to “I don’t want to talk about it” leaves an unpleasant residue. Over time, these topics can form a large, dark mass that might threaten your relationship. If you don’t want the chasm in your relationship to keep growing, you need to establish communication as soon as possible. Open up to your partner completely and be ready to always listen to your other half, showing care and understanding.

Insecurity

The old expression “like a stone wall” might sound terribly clichéd, but it remains relevant today. If you are afraid to turn to a close person for help, fearing rejection, misunderstanding, or, worse, ridicule, what kind of relationship is that? How viable are they in the long term?

Violation of Personal Space

No, we are not contradicting ourselves or our previous point “Ignoring.” It is essential to differentiate between things crucial for the existence of a relationship and things that are inviolable personal boundaries. Everyone has secrets, and that’s perfectly normal. Knowing your partner, you need to exercise the necessary intuition to understand when to press with questions and when to step back and give the person space.

Conclusions

Always keep in mind that close relationships are primarily about finding the perfect balance between selfishness and altruism, that is, between fulfilling your own desires and those of your partner. The closer you are to the golden mean, the stronger and more enduring your relationship will be.

Having explored taboo topics that shouldn’t be in healthy relationships, it’s crucial to discuss how to resist negativity and preserve your mental well-being.